The Secret Behind Pornography
Hello Teens, It’s your favourite topic!
I know this subject of
pornography is no stranger to the world of teenagers out there. For those of
you who may still claim naïve on this issue of pornography, lemme define this.
Pornography is the display of nude, semi-nude, sexually-arousing images,
videos, or even texts…yes even text! If you’re someone like me, by that I mean
someone who grew up in the 21st century where anything can be gotten
from the internet by just a few click of a few buttons, you would know that
since the commencement of the internet era (i.e. post-1995) the use of
pornography has become widespread.
I know that this is a
very touchy subject as only about one out of twenty teenagers can attest to
having never viewed porn. I am not writing this post to make you stop viewing
porn (although that wouldn't be such a bad idea), I am writing this post to
expose the secrets behind porn and help you reduce your viewing of porn and
maintain healthy social and sexual lives.
The mistake that most
parents make when they catch their teens viewing porn is to seize their
electronic gadgets such as: laptops, mobile phones, ipads, tablets, etc.
Honestly, it is high time someone told them that doing that has little or no
effect on curbing our viewing of porn, most times it makes us even have a
deeper craving for it. Once one has started viewing porn, depending on his or
her psychological make-up, it is quite a task to cease. Therefore, the wisest
thing that parents could do is to make sure that their teen does not make it an
addiction. Definitely, it is no surprise that with the arrival of adolescence
comes the desire to explore everything—good or bad. If the parents can counsel
their teens, and make them see that their newly-found desires should not scare
them but are evanescent things that should be curbed.
I guess we now know
what porn is, it’s time to tell you what it does to you:
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It turns you into an addict. Everyone knows how addictive porn can be.
Once one starts it is very difficult to stop. Therefore, you just want more and
more of that stuff. This is just one of the bad things porn does to you.
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It turns you into a pervert. This is usually true because it’s like you’re
trying to see that which you see on a 2D screen in 3D or rather, hi-definition,
lol. This is very bad, because it would hamper your communication with people.
You would tend to drift off during conversations because instead of focusing on
the discussion, you’d be busy imagining the person nude or half-nude.
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It kills your social life. Most porn addicts have attested to having
spent more time watching porn or simply visualizing porn scenes than actually
having contact with people. That makes them sociopaths, sort of. You would
rather spend thirty minutes watching a clip of hard-core porn than having a
discussion with your friends, much less with family. This is what porn does to
you.
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It makes your relationships last as long
as it takes you to blink.
Firstly, you would find it very difficult having relationships. It is a fact
that most porn makers use picture-perfect girls and studs to feature in their
porn wares. Therefore, when you’re looking for a partner, a boyfriend, or a
girlfriend, you tend to look for someone who is picture-perfect, or rather,
flawless. Let’s face it, there is virtually nobody who is without a flaw.
Therefore, once you start a relationship with this hot girl, or guy, and you
notice a flaw, the relationship is over. Porn never shows the real-life flaws
of an individual such as that smelly mouth, or those gross armpits, those
infected pubic region, they show you only one thang—flawless.
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It reduces your mental stability. The day before the Canadian survey
appeared, a study came out in JAMA Psychiatry. Researchers had scanned the
brains of porn users and found:
1) There
was a correlation between time spent viewing porn and reduced grey matter in
their brains' reward circuitry (which governs motivation and appetites).
2) The reward circuitry, which lights up in
response to sexual stimuli, showed less activation the more porn individuals
had watched (both per week and over the years) even if they weren't addicted.
3) The connection between the pre-frontal cortex, the "executive control" part of the brain, and the reward circuitry was weaker the more porn the users watched -- a risk for impaired
decision making.
(Source: Huffingtonpost)
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It causes porn-induced erectile
dysfunction. This usually
occurs in porn addicts who view porn and masturbate simultaneously.
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It makes you insecure. Very few people are proud to admit that
they view porn or have even ever viewed porn. Therefore, it always feels like
there’s this big secret you’re hiding and you may even become paranoid about
people going close to your gadgets as it would reveal what kind of stuff you
view.
Having said all this,
I hope I have revealed a few of the kind of stuff porn viewing does to us,
teens. More often than not, it would give a sense of pleasure, but obviously,
the disadvantages outnumber the advantages. The choice is yours, it’s you call.
After reading this, you may choose to stop viewing porn or to simply reduce
your viewing of porn, or you may even just close this page and continue in your
old ways. Whichever you may choose, it’s your decision. As for me, I stopped
viewing porn when I found out about all this sometime in January 2014.
If you have any
questions or contributions to this, please drop a comment.
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